Comments on: Finding a Soulmate http://www.lovemarriageandstinkingthinking.com/stinking-thinking/finding-a-soulmate/ Just another WordPress weblog Sun, 23 Oct 2011 21:55:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: LISA MCALLISTER http://www.lovemarriageandstinkingthinking.com/stinking-thinking/finding-a-soulmate/comment-page-1/#comment-2470 LISA MCALLISTER Tue, 26 Apr 2011 02:12:07 +0000 http://www.lovemarriageandstinkingthinking.com/?p=257#comment-2470 Hello, I watch your program and it this episode captured my immediate attention because I did just find out about my husband's "friendship". We have been married almost 20 years, in fact, we are high school sweethearts with 3 children. This story sounds eerily like my husband may have written this email. Is there anyway you can tell me if it is from LeVon McAllister? I have been treating my husband as a "king" because God had started dealing with me in my role as a wife just immediately before finding out about my husband's infidelity. I confronted him with my revelation of his relationship with this woman and told him he needed to make a decision. He said he chose to remain in our marriage, however, I feel his heart is with her. I'm in prayer with God and am having faith that God will reconcile our hearts to be as one. Do you have any comments at all on this matter. Should I continue to treat him as a Christian wife does or do I let go? Thank you, Lisa McAllister Hello,

I watch your program and it this episode captured my immediate attention because I did just find out about my husband’s “friendship”. We have been married almost 20 years, in fact, we are high school sweethearts with 3 children. This story sounds eerily like my husband may have written this email. Is there anyway you can tell me if it is from LeVon McAllister? I have been treating my husband as a “king” because God had started dealing with me in my role as a wife just immediately before finding out about my husband’s infidelity. I confronted him with my revelation of his relationship with this woman and told him he needed to make a decision. He said he chose to remain in our marriage, however, I feel his heart is with her. I’m in prayer with God and am having faith that God will reconcile our hearts to be as one. Do you have any comments at all on this matter. Should I continue to treat him as a Christian wife does or do I let go?

Thank you,

Lisa McAllister

]]> By: Deana http://www.lovemarriageandstinkingthinking.com/stinking-thinking/finding-a-soulmate/comment-page-1/#comment-2280 Deana Thu, 17 Mar 2011 22:50:29 +0000 http://www.lovemarriageandstinkingthinking.com/?p=257#comment-2280 I have been married for 20yrs this yr and only found out about my husband's infidelity which he is in complete denial. He is in the military and when he deployed to the Philippines he found another woman & kept it a secret for over a yr. I just found out on my b/day in Feb of this yr and he insists that they were very close friends, but the pictures I found of both of them in a hotel room told another story. We have had our problems, but I have always stayed faithful to him and our children. When I confronted him about his relationship with her he got very defensive and insists that they are very close friends and that's all. I asked him why wasn't he wearing his wedding band in the pictures holding her like they were just married and in a hotel room in front of a very messed up queen size bed...he said that they were just saying good bye and that it was just friendship. I guess he thinks I am stupid and I will hang on. I had to threaten him to go to his company commander to get some truth out of him. He finally told me after so many hours of questioning him that they did sleep together, but it was only close friendship. I told him to chose between her & our marriage and he hesitated and got defensive. He chose her in my mind. I don't think I will ever forgive him because he is not man enough to admit to his wrong doing and apologize to the children or me. I feel so used, betrayed and completely devastated. I gave up my career for him to support his career and take care of our family every time he deployed or went away. I don't think I can compete with his lies and infidelity after this experience. To make it worse, he hid the relationship for over a yr and kept in touch with her when he came back from the Philippines and admitted that he wasn't going to tell me about it because he didn't want to hurt me or get me angry. I don't know the man after 20yrs, so how is it possible to get over this. I have been through a lot with breast cancer and still in treatment and I have given him everything I had. I am still trying to get over it and all the while he wants to destroy me emotionally and spiritually by constantly lying to me and going behind my back and going through my computer to see if I have any incriminating pictures I have of his other life. Please shed some light so I can move on with my life and help my children get over this without feeling so devastated and disconnected with our lives. I have been married for 20yrs this yr and only found out about my husband’s infidelity which he is in complete denial. He is in the military and when he deployed to the Philippines he found another woman & kept it a secret for over a yr. I just found out on my b/day in Feb of this yr and he insists that they were very close friends, but the pictures I found of both of them in a hotel room told another story. We have had our problems, but I have always stayed faithful to him and our children. When I confronted him about his relationship with her he got very defensive and insists that they are very close friends and that’s all. I asked him why wasn’t he wearing his wedding band in the pictures holding her like they were just married and in a hotel room in front of a very messed up queen size bed…he said that they were just saying good bye and that it was just friendship. I guess he thinks I am stupid and I will hang on. I had to threaten him to go to his company commander to get some truth out of him. He finally told me after so many hours of questioning him that they did sleep together, but it was only close friendship. I told him to chose between her & our marriage and he hesitated and got defensive. He chose her in my mind. I don’t think I will ever forgive him because he is not man enough to admit to his wrong doing and apologize to the children or me. I feel so used, betrayed and completely devastated. I gave up my career for him to support his career and take care of our family every time he deployed or went away. I don’t think I can compete with his lies and infidelity after this experience. To make it worse, he hid the relationship for over a yr and kept in touch with her when he came back from the Philippines and admitted that he wasn’t going to tell me about it because he didn’t want to hurt me or get me angry. I don’t know the man after 20yrs, so how is it possible to get over this. I have been through a lot with breast cancer and still in treatment and I have given him everything I had. I am still trying to get over it and all the while he wants to destroy me emotionally and spiritually by constantly lying to me and going behind my back and going through my computer to see if I have any incriminating pictures I have of his other life.
Please shed some light so I can move on with my life and help my children get over this without feeling so devastated and disconnected with our lives.

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